Kate Ferdinand bravely admits she ‘doesn’t love her post-baby body’ and ‘wants it to go back to how it was before’
KATE Ferdinand gave birth to son Cree three months ago, and bravely admitted that she “doesn’t love her post-baby body”.
The new mum, who gave birth in December, opened up about post-birth life in a searingly honest interview and recently shared a candid snap in maternity knickers.
Kate subscribes to the very sensible “nine months on, nine months off” philosophy when it comes to getting her body back to where she feels most confident.
There are no plans to crash-diet but – with typical frankness – neither does she pretend to love her post-pregnancy figure.
Speaking to Fabulous, Kate said: “I do want to go back to how I was before.
“I know some women say they love their post-baby bodies, but I don’t really love my body now if I’m being honest.
“It’s OK to say that, we shouldn’t have to pretend we do!
“Having said that, I’m not beating myself up about it, it’s a gradual process to get back to where I was before. I’m not going to be skinny in a week.
“As new mums, as long as you and your baby are healthy then that’s all that matters.
“I’ve always been body-conscious, and pregnancy obviously changes your body so much.
I know some women say they love their post-baby bodies, but I don’t really love my body now if I’m being honest.
“When you look in the mirror you have a few more rolls and you think: ‘what’s happened here?!’
“But I haven’t been too hard on myself – I’ve just produced a human!”
Kate said she is keen to give other mums an honest account of the realities of motherhood, and was recently praised for posting a candid selfie on Instagram.
In the shot, her hair was scraped back in a messy bun, she was wearing maternity knickers that revealed a brutal-looking bruise on her thigh but baby Cree was oblivious to it all, curled up in a milk slumber over her shoulder.
Kate says: “I was really nervous about posting that picture, but something in me just felt like I had to.
“I was scrolling on social media and seeing lots of women having babies and looking amazing and seeming really happy, and I was just thinking: ‘I don’t feel like that, I feel overwhelmed’. I loved him so much, but I was struggling.
“My body was bruised, I couldn’t walk up and down the stairs and I just thought: ‘Surely other people must be going through this too?’
“I felt very strongly that I wanted to be a voice of normality.”
After a pretty smooth pregnancy, Kate, 29, suffered a gruelling birth that culminated in an emergency caesarean.
The experience left her devastated because the recovery was painful and slow – for weeks she was effectively bed-ridden and unable to perform the simplest of tasks.
Although husband Rio, 42, was a pillar of support, Kate felt frustrated and desperately sad that she couldn’t pick up Cree from his crib herself, finding it difficult even to change his nappies.
On top of that, she felt guilty for not spending more time with her stepchildren, Lorenz, 14, Tate, 12, and nine-year-old Tia, who also needed her.
The hopes and expectations she’d had were shattered, which she struggled to accept at the time.
“I think I cried every single day for about five weeks,” she says. “You expect to be doing everything you possibly can for your baby and when you can’t… It was something I really struggled with.
“I was in my own little world, I felt really confused and had lots of anxiety and I didn’t think anyone understood.
“I was all over the place emotionally. I couldn’t even put my trousers on or my knickers.”
Since getting back into light training recently, Kate has started to feel more like her old self.
Kate said: “I was very by the book at first; I was too scared to do anything too soon.
“But recently I’ve been doing very light Pilates for 30 minutes and going on long walks. I’ve only just started doing light weights.
“I am a new mum, I’m tired, but I have made a conscious effort to move more because it makes me feel better and I’m feeling so much better.
“In the first six weeks I never thought I would feel like this, but exercise and getting moving has made a huge difference.”
Kate recently invited followers to ask her anything about her motherhood journey so far and was slightly taken aback to find several people questioning whether she loved her biological baby more than her three stepchildren.
She said: “So many people have said it. Even when I was pregnant people would say to me: ‘Do you think you’re going to love the baby more than the other three?’
“And it infuriates me. There is no difference, I love them all.
“Maybe I’m lucky that I see them as the same, but I’m never, ever going to treat any of them differently.”
She also revealed how Mother’s Day will be spent quietly at home as a family of six.
The children will remember their mum and Rio’s first wife, Rebecca, who passed away in 2015 to breast cancer.
The family have endured unbearable tragedy over the last few years, also losing Rio’s mum Janice St Ford, 58, to cancer in 2017.
So there are no big celebrations planned.
She said: “It’s a difficult day in our house because the children have lost their mum and Rio’s lost his as well, so I always feel anxious in the lead up to it.
“We always have a lovely day, but the build-up is hard. I’ll find it hard to celebrate myself as I don’t want to seem insensitive or selfish when Rio and the kids have lost their mums.
“So we’ll do a family PJs day and have a toast to Rebecca and Janice. And to me as well.”
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Previously, Rio calls wife Kate a ‘yummy mummy’ as they cosy up for rare selfie after son Cree’s birth.
The proud parents shared the first glimpse of their little one in a sweet snap of Rio and the kids gathered around their Christmas tree in matching green pyjamas.
Kim Chipendu is a columnist for Healthy Organic Lifestyle.